How to Keep Your Children Out of the Middle of Your Divorce
- Do not criticize your spouse or former spouse in front of the child.
- Do not argue with your spouse or former spouse in your children's presence. Be careful not to argue during exchanges of the child.
- Don't discuss adult issues, such as finances or the details of the divorce case, in your child's presence.
- You should never use your children to deliver messages, money, or anything else to your former spouse.
- Don't use your children to spy on the other parent, or to tell you the details of what the other parent is doing, such as whom they are dating.
- Don't withhold visitation to punish your former spouse.
- Do not tell the children that they can choose where they want to live.
- Assure the children that you and your spouse or former spouse still love them and that the separation/divorce is not the child's fault.
- Assure your child that they will continue to see both parents on a regular basis, and will be well taken care of by both parents.
- Be on time and punctual regarding all visitation and exchanges.
